I've seen my share of overcompensating couples (international and locals in Asia) during my Asian travels. I've even heard their overcompensating sexy time. In all of those experiences, the first thing that came to my mind was "Oh they aren't going to make it". Yes I say it out loud to my spirit guide. I'm sure couples have probably overheard me as well. I'm actually doing them a favor. Some women are pretty dumb in their relationship partner choices. They will get it right eventually!
A lot of women will get it together in 2020 actually. No more overcompensating annoying laughter at the partner's jokes that aren't funny. No more overcompensating pleasure responses when you know none or one of yall have no rhythm. Good sex doesn't come with a lot of noise. Newsflash! That's why Asian love hotels have massage chairs. That's the plan B for that "date" or "couple" to get their money's worth.
My best advice for 2020 is for women and/or men is to get a dancer, musician, and/or someone who has dated someone with natural rhythm. Of course it takes two to tango though. You need to have some rhythm of your own! Get some performing arts in your life if you didn't grow up with it. :)
The Bali Curse
One version states that unmarried couples will breakup if they do the "deed" while on vacation in Bali. I personally don't believe in curses. I believe people curse themselves when they believe in too much negativity. You are what you think in other words.
Do Couples Breakup after Vacation?
Absolutely! The reason is because they just weren't compatible. It's really that simple!
Click the 200+ Questions to Ask Before Getting Serious Q&A and apply it. It will save you some time in 2020!
The #1 Tip for Couples on Vacation is to always focus on the Sensual vs. the Sexual.
Mature couples and couples who are naturally sensual know this. You want to stick to romantic activities. If a partner has you held up almost every single day in a hotel bed, you might as well be charging him by the hour. Self esteem check ladies n gents! That's not a couple vacation!
Get out and view a sunset, a boat ride, walks in the park, massages, room service, shopping, etc.
Single women can also enjoy these activities! You are on vacation with yourself after all. That's the first "relationship" you should have perfected. ;)
As I continue to observe the younger generations of Millennials and Generation Z all over the World, I find it funny how a lot of people are missing out on the obvious reasons to why there are low birth rates and less desires for proper dating…and why this will continue into the future…
Job Definitions - Many young people are redefining what work and jobs mean to them. Work will simply be more about passive income earnings and entrepreneurship in the future. This creates more freedom to explore and network. Young people will simply be on the minimalist move vs. sitting in one place for too long.
Relationship Definitions - Partnerships may come together through mutual freedom networks...and share that same freedom mindset. Open Relationships, Test “Marriages”, LGBT “Lavender Marriages”, Business “Marriages”, and Friendship Cohabitations will reign supreme. The need to please a parent’s curiosity at a holiday dinner will be in the past…mainly because within the next 20 years you’ll see many Generation Xers and Boomers nolonger on this plane. That’s just life though. Young people will create their own definitions and laws of what a relationship involves.
They will continue to vibrate to the Universal energy of 3s though. Every 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years, etc will continue to be checkpoints for relationship evaluations.
Spiritual Definitions – A lot of relationship decisions are still tied to religious organizations and doctrines. The future is already showing itself with many young people taking on more spiritual beliefs. This independent thinking will continue to lead to more focus on the self. I don’t feel that young people will become more narcissistic, just more single minded.
AI/Robots – The love-hate relationship that many people have with robots is interesting. It will be more of a love/love relationship in the future though. This will be an industry that continues to grow for those that want AI housekeeping partners at home. Humans aren’t for everybody. Let men have their robots.
Fur Babies – You don’t have to worry about animals getting replaced with AI pets. Low birth rates = higher pet rates. This includes small mammals to medium size mammals…and all their little clothes and accessories. Animals still need to be animals though. Some may humanize their robot pets instead for a healthy balance.
The amount of relationship advice that I've provided to others over the years is amazing to me, esp when many of those years I was simply single and mingling or dating short term! You learn a lot over the years from simply noticing patterns from others, having educational backgrounds in -ology fields, individual research, and unique travel experiences. Common sense also goes a long way. ;)
For some reason a lot of people get into the YOLO energy when they travel, esp overseas. They want to get their spring break "groove" back, hike off the paths, venture into every cave, and jump off every waterfall like it's a slip and slide in the backyard. I'm all for living that adventurous life, but a lot of those "adventures" are quite risky. Dating overseas is the same.
You have to apply the same logic as if you were dating in your home country. As I'm about to embark on an overseas Bucket List adventure, I want to share some dating advice. My spirit guide is already providing me with some funny and annoying dreams on what to avoid...hence this post. ;)
* Stay Safe - Basic rules apply by staying in safe areas, visiting safe areas, hanging out in safe areas, etc. Just do your research beforehand. You know nothing good goes down after midnight anywhere around the World. Have yourself inside by that time as a golden rule. ;)
* Be Yourself - You can be whoever you want to be when you're dating. That's a problem all around because you never really know someone until you have lived with them and/or have dated them for some time. Being yourself just makes things easier for everyone.
Travel mode already makes many people simplify their routines from hair to makeup to styles. This is quite positive for many reasons. The rest is merely about sticking to basic Q & As (first name (Travel Numerology Tip HERE), interests, nationality, etc). If you want to tell people that you're Black, White, and Asian after living in enough countries and befriending enough people since childhood, well then go right ahead! haha Yes I have said that someone before. lol
* Burner Phones - A lot of people get burner phones that they can rent or throw out when they travel. This is a great thing when you plan on meeting new people and/or doing business.
* Be Blind - If your weakness is any and everything pretty, it's time to get mentally strong. Pretty doesn't always mean sane and/or safe! It's easy to fall for that "exotic" stranger in that new "exotic" land that's offering up an "exotic" experience. lol Stay strong ladies! The MIND is always sexier at the end of the day. Have an intellectual conversation first to see what you're working with. That P.Y.T may be off to another after you ask them about their arts and culture interests.
I'm just saying. ;)
Happy and Safe Travels!
Your biorhythms are your daily energy patterns. You can calculate your daily biorhythms with just your birthday. You can also calculate how your energy patterns flow with another individual. It's important to note that your biorhythm compatibilities will never change. The only thing that will change is how much the other person is on your "energy radar". It's also best to calculate your biorhythm compatibility with people that you actually know vs. random strangers. There needs to be a relevant connection to feel things out on a daily basis.
The ideal biorhythms to have for friendships and friends with benefits are between 70-89%. Biorhythm compatibilities between 90%-100% will be the most intense with highs and lows. You will always have 100% with people who share the exact same birthday as you.
* Legal Age Compatibilities are just a number if there's a relevant connection.
* I support all the noonas and cougars of the World who are aging backwards in life. Over the age of 24 is often ideal for romantic partnerships based on
Astrological Maturity Ages (ages 24-30 and ages 31-40).
I have used my birthday as an example to showcase the Main Biorhythm Compatibilities
(Emotional, Physical, Intellectual).
Emotional Rhythms describe how your daily moods flow with one another.
Physical Rhythms describe how your daily physical energies flow with one another. This can also highlight physical attractions.
Intellectual Rhythms describe how your daily mental thoughts flow with one another. This can also highlight telepathic connections if both individuals are intuitive.
CLICK HERE to Calculate Your Biorhythms and Your Biorhythm Compatibilities.
Venus is the planet of love and beauty. It describes aspects of your personality and what you're attracted to in others (temptations, friendships, and/or romantic relationships). It can give clues to your flirting style as well. Scroll to the end of the post to discover your birth chart's Venus sign.
My Venus sign is in the sign of Aquarius. I'm often attracted to quirky individuals who aren't afraid to stand out from the crowd. This includes innovators, artists, comedians, musicians, dancers, and overall entertainers. Although I'm quite direct and humorous when I like someone due to being a Sagittarius, my Venus sign in Aquarius keeps me rather cool and detached at first. It's a lovely balance. Some may call Venus in Aquarius's initial approach a bit "cold". I just call it Swag. ;)
Venus Sign in Air Signs (Aquarius, Gemini, Libra)
- Detached, Objective, "Swaggy", Creative, Fickle, Intellectuals, Chatty, Friendships, Easy Going
Venus Sign in Fire Signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)
- Variety is the Spice, Enthusiastic, Passionate, Tempermental, Direct, Adventurous
Venus Sign in Water Signs (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio)
- Romantic, Emotional, Passionate, Sensitive, Picky, Charming, Private, "Loyal", Intuitive
Venus Sign in Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)
- Dependable, Picky, Practical, Grounded, "Loyal", Organized, Sensual, Reliable
Destiny vs. Free Will is often a question many people have. It's often misunderstood how your life path works. I'll keep it pretty simple though.
You have some parts of your life that are predestined and some parts that are not. At the end of the day, your life path lessons will all be learned...in this life or the next one! Relationships are often the best and quickest teachers in every lifetime.
The Forrest Gump meme is really just a truth statement to how life should be enjoyed. Be open to welcoming new people, places, and things throughout it. You never know if you'll like something until you try it. Take time to savor one by one. You may even put some in categories (nuts, fruits, and decadent fillings). Life would be pretty boring and restless if that box of chocolates was all the same. Welcome life's mysteries by making the efforts to take a bite. Just make sure that you're having fun with it. That's what's important at the end of the day. :)
Ah Love. It can be a wonderful journey of self discovery when higher perspectives are taken into account. Many often get confused when words like "soulmate" are thrown around though. I often hear "I'm looking for my soulmate" or "I thought he/she was my soulmate?". The truth is that we have many soulmates! Trust me! I know! I also know how to move on from them (if necessary) so that the next ones can arrive. This is why I am writing this post. :)
Soulmates are people that we have chosen to learn life lessons from. Many come in from previous lifetimes to resolve spiritual karmic debts. They don't guarantee happily ever after for this reason! They can come in many forms as well (parents, teachers, bosses, siblings, friendships, crushes, dating partners, marriage partners, etc). Magnetic attractions are often at work to get us into many of our romantic/sexual soulmate unions. Once we are in, it can be quite a ride of self discovery, esp when it comes to discovering our Egos!
The word Ego is not a bad word though. Egos are there to push us forward in life. Ego helps us to achieve our goals. The Ego becomes a hindrance in relationships when it's used to restrict ourselves and/or our partners. This is when the Ego becomes focused on wanting control over a relationship vs. allowing a relationship freedom. I see this all the time with couples who go back and forth with ex partnerships, esp when the ex attempts to move on into a new relationship. It can get even more dramatic when children and step parenting are involved. It doesn't have to be that way though.
The best thing to do in these cases is to look at the qualities that you still admire about the other person. Relationships act as mirrors at the end of the day. Two people are simply reflecting the same qualities within one another. Bringing those positive qualities up within helps couples to focus more on their own inner strengths. This builds an independent vs. dependent mindset in relationships. The mutual and secure appreciation creates a True Love bond during and after the relationship's expiration date.
Understanding how the Universe works is also crucial. The Universe vibrates to 3s. Checkpoints in relationships for reevaluations often come in multiples of 3s. Every 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 3 years, 6 years, etc, are major checkpoints. These checkpoints become even stronger when couples choose to get married. The 9th and 12th year are often some of the strongest reevaluation checkpoints for long term couples. An ideal way to take on these checkpoints is to travel. Getting away from your normal stomping grounds can breathe new life into healthy relationships that are seeking a refresh. Unhealthy relationships that didn't have many positive reflections will use these checkpoints to go their separate ways. This is when the couple's unhealthy shared qualities can get the healing that is necessary and required. :) <3
I personally use Chinese New Year (Feb 5th Year of the Pig for 2019) as my Official New Year. I personally recommend asking for someone's Chinese Astrology Sign before their Western Astrology Sign, esp in romantic relationships.
Guess my Chinese Animal Sign from the image above. My Sagittarius Western Astrology Sign just adds to fun barnyard mix! You'll eventually start to see everyone as the animals that they are...atleast until the robots take over. ;)
Chinese Astrology is based on a 12 year cycle with an animal representing each year. Each animal has a different personality with negative (things you need to improve/release) and positive characteristics (things you need to bring up more).
Discover your Basic Chinese Animal Sign Personality and Chinese Astrology Compatibility below...
Rat – 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996
-Inventive, Critical, Charming, Temperamental, Opportunist, Deep Thinking
Ox/Cow – 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997
-Patient, Hardworking, Stubborn, Methodical, Temperamental, Reliable, Leaders
Tiger – 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998
-Sensitive, Emotional, Stubborn, Charming, “Rebel”, Initiating, Adventurous
Rabbit – 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999
-Affectionate, Cautious, Sentimental, Superficial, People Pleasing, "Conservative"
Dragon – 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000
-Energetic, Sensitive, “Lucky”, Outspoken, Popular, Demanding, Perfectionist
Snake – 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001
-Romantic, Wise, Charming, Deep Thinkers, Loner, Intuitive, Stingy
Horse - 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002
-Independent, Hardworking, Adventurous, Selfish, Perceptive
Sheep/Goat – 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003
-Charming, Shy, Worrier, Elegant, Materialistic, Artistic
Monkey – 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004
-Clever, Magnetic, Witty, Opportunist, Flexible, Strong-willed
Rooster/Chicken – 1969, 1981, 1993, 2005
-Hardworking, Critical, Talented, Loner, Blunt, Perfectionist, Flashy, Intuitive, Eccentric
Dog – 1970, 1982, 1994, 2006
-“Loyal”, Worrier, Honest, Critical, Sharp, Family oriented
Pig – 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007
-Goal oriented, Sincere, Materialistic, Tolerant, Naïve, Giver and Taker
The chart below is based on Your Ideal Matches for Love.
*A Challenging Compatibility simply requires Greater Efforts from Both Animals*
* Pigs and Oxes often get along when the Pigs are Loyal *
Have you ever wondered why you're attracted to different types of people?
Our love attractions often vibrate to 3s like the Universe. The three types of lovers that we often have in life are the...
Serious Dating Types
Life Partner Types
Casual Dating Types
You can determine which type of personality fits your current commitment desires by looking at your birthday. Simply use your Month and Day of Birth for this reading. Your Month of Birth will be reduced down to a single digit between 1-9. Your Day of Birth will also be reduced down to a single digit between 1-9.
Your Casual Dating Types are determined by your Month of Birth. These are your "Temptations". These are your Bias Wreckers. It's best to bring these "bias wrecking" qualities into your committed relationships to avoid cheating.
Your Serious Dating and Life Partner Types are determined by the Day of Birth. These are the types of people that you'll feel the most comfortable with. It's who you want to come home to at the end of the day. <3
I was born December 20th (12-20)
The 12th=#3 and the 20th=#2
My Casual Dating/Bias Wrecking Types are #3 type people.
My Serious Dating Types and Life Partner Types are #2 type people.
* This simply means that people with #2 qualities will be the most ideal. It doesn't mean that you should ONLY seek out people born on #2 reduced down days!
Number 1 = The number 1 type of person is independent, confident, strives to be the "best", and enjoys direct/honest conversations.
Number 2 = The number 2 type of person is intuitive, sensitive, sensual, personable, enjoys pampered relaxation, and nurtures people, nature, and/or animals.
Number 3 = The number 3 type of person is communicative, creative, fickle, sensual, open minded, and has a good sense of humor.
Number 4 = The number 4 type of person is organized, devoted, worrisome, desires security and stability, and enjoys nature.
Number 5 = The number 5 type of person is travel friendly, restless, enjoys DIY projects, sensual, and is always multitasking.
Number 6 = The number 6 type of person is domestic, business oriented, likes being in control, and enjoys nurturing people, nature, and/or animals.
Number 7 = The number 7 type of person is studious, intuitive, enjoys a lot of alone time to recharge, and enjoys nature.
Number 8 = The number 8 type of person is honest, desires the "best", enjoys financial stability with age, and is often well dressed.
Number 9 = The number 9 type of person is sensitive, desires humanitarian and leadership work, desires to heal their pasts, and enjoys relaxation with alternative medicine care.
1. Are you working on your chosen field?
2. How many hours a week do you work?
3. What does your job entail?
4. What is your dream job?
5. Have you ever been called a workaholic?
6. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
7. Have you ever been fired?
8. Have you ever quit a job suddenly? Have you changed jobs a lot?
9. Do you consider your work a career or just a job?
10. Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
11. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
12. Do you prefer urban, suburban, or rural settings?
13. Is it important to have your own private home? Do you prefer an apartment or condo living? Do you want a management company responsible for the maintenance? Are you a DIYer? Would you rather hire professionals? Do you prefer to clean your own home or hire a housekeeper?
14. Do you think of your home as a cocoon? Is your door always open? What do you need to feel energized and inspired in your home?
15. Is quiet important in your home? Do you prefer having music or some background noise most of the time? Is it important to have a TV in the bedroom? Living room? Kitchen? Do you like to sleep with the TV or radio on?
16. How important is it for you to have a space in your home that is all yours?
17. Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
18. If you had unlimited resources, how would you live?
19. How important is it for you to make a lot of money?
20. What is your annual income?
21. Do you pay alimony or child support?
22. Do you believe in prenuptial agreements?
23. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
24. Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts? Do you feel that bills should be divided based on a percentage of each person's salary?
25. Who should handle the finances in your family?
26. Do you have significant debts?
27. Do you gamble?
28. Did you have a paying job when you were in high school?
29. Have you ever been called cheap or stingy?
30. Do you believe that a certain amount of money should be set aside for pleasure?
31. Have you ever used money as a way of controlling a relationship? Has anyone ever tried to control you with money?
32. Has money ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
33. Have you ever felt deeply insecure in a relationship? Were you able to name your fear?
34. When was the first time you felt that you were in love with another person? What happened in that relationship?
35. What is the longest relationship you have ever had prior to this one? Why did it end? What lesson did you learn?
36. Have you ever been married? If so, are you divorced or widowed? How do you think you handled the loss?
37. If you have a current partner, do they know of behaviors that you exhibited in your previous relationship that you're not proud of?
38. Do you believe that past relationships should be left in the past and not talked about in your current relationship?
39. Do you tend to judge current partners on past relationships?
40. Have you ever sought marriage counseling? What did the experience teach you?
41. Do you have children from previous marriages or non-marital relationships? What is your relationship with them? How do you see your relationship with them in the future?
42. Have you ever been engaged to be married but didn't go through with the wedding?
43. Have you ever had a live-in partner? Why did you choose to live together instead of marrying? What did your experience teach you about the importance of marriage and about commitment?
44. Do you harbor fears that the person you love might reject you or fall out of love with you?
45. What sexual activities do you enjoy the most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? Be specific! This is no time to hedge.
46. Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?
47. What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?
48. Have you ever been sexually abused or assaulted?
49. What was the attitude toward sex in your family? Was it talked about? Who taught you about sex?
50. Do you use sex to self medicate? If something upsets you, do you use sex to try and help you feel better?
51. Have you ever felt forced to have sex to "keep the peace"? Have you ever forced someone or been told that you forced someone to have sex with you to "keep the peace"?
52. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?
53. Do you enjoy viewing pornography?
54. How often do you need or expect sex?
55. Have you ever a sexual relationship with a person of the same sex?
56. Has sexual dissatisfaction ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
57. How would you describe the current state of your health?
58. Have you ever had a serious illness? Have you ever had surgery?
59. Do you believe it is a sacred responsibility to take care of yourself? Do you believe that taking care of your physical and mental health is a part of honoring your marriage vows?
60. Are there genetic diseases in your family or a history of cancer, heart disease, or chronic illness?
61. Do you have health insurance? Dental insurance?
62. Do you belong to a gym? If so, how much time do you spend at the gym every week?
63. Do you play sports or take exercise classes?
64. Have you ever been in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship?
65. Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?
66. Have you ever been in a serious accident?
67. Do you take medication?
68. Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
69. Have you ever been treated for a mental disorder?
70. Do you see a therapist?
71. Do you smoke?
72. Do you consider yourself an addictive personality? Have you ever suffered from an addiction? Have you ever been told you have an addiction problem, even though you might disagree?
73. How much alcohol do you drink every week?
74. Do you use recreational drugs?
75. Do you have a medical problem that impacts your ability to have a satisfying sex life?
76. Have any of these health problems ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
77. How important is it that you always look your best?
78. How important is your spouse's appearance? Do you have strong preferences about being with a particular physical type?
79. Are there cosmetic procedures that you regularly undergo?
80. Is weight control important to you? Is your spouse's weight important to you? What would your reaction be if your partner were to gain a significant amount of weight?
81. How much money do you spend on clothing every year?
82. Do you worry about getting old? Do you worry about losing your looks?
83. What do you like and dislike about your appearance? When you were a child, were you often complimented or shamed about your looks?
84. What would your reaction be if your spouse lost a limb? How would you handle this loss?
85. Do you feel that you can have good chemistry with someone who is moderately physically attractive to you, or is a strong physical attraction necessary? Has physical appearance or chemistry ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
86. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
87. Would you feel unfulfilled if you were unable to have children?
88. Who is responsible for birth control? What would you do if there were an accidental pregnancy before you planned to have children?
89. What is your view of fertility treatments? Adoption? Would you adopt if you were unable to have a child naturally?
90. What is your view of abortion? Should a husband have an equal say in whether his wife has an abortion? Have you ever had an abortion?
91. Have you ever given birth to a child or fathered a child who was put up for adoption?
92. How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?
93. Do you believe that a good mother will want to breast-feed her baby? Do you believe a mother or father should stay at home with a child during the first six months of life? The first year? Longer?
94. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time out, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?
95. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?
96. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she was sexually active?
97. How would you handle it if you didn't like your child's friends?
98. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she was sexually active?
99. How would you handle it if you didn't like your child's friends?
100. In a blended family, should birth parents be in charge of making decisions for their own children?
101. Would you ever consider getting a vasectomy or having your tubes tied? Do you believe its your choice, or does your partner have a say?
102. Have differences concerning conception or child-raising ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
103. Are you close to your family?
104. Are you or have you ever been alienated from your family?
105. Do you have a difficult time setting limits with family?
106. Have you identified the childhood wound that may have sabotaged your relationships in the past? How were you most hurt in your family? Who hurt you?
107. How important is it that you and your partner be on good terms with each other's families?
108. How did your parents settle conflicts when you were a child? Do people in your family carry grudges?
109. How much influence do your parents still have over your decisions?
110. Have unresolved or ongoing family issues ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
111. Do you have a best friend?
112. Do you see a close friend or friends at least once a week? Do you speak to any of your friends on the phone every single day?
113. Are your friendships as important to you as your life partner is?
114. If your friends need you, are you there for them?
115. Is it important to you for your partner to accept and like your friends?
116. Is it important that you and your partner have friends in common?
117. Do you have a difficult time setting limits with friends?
118. Has a partner ever been responsible for breaking up a friendship? Have friends ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
119. Are you an animal lover?
120. Do you have a dog, cat, or other beloved pet?
121. Is your attitude "Love me, love my dog, etc"?
122. Have you ever been physically aggressive with an animal? Have you deliberately hurt an animal?
123. Do you believe a person should give up his or her pet if it interferes with the relationship?
124. Do you consider pets members of your family?
125. Have you ever been jealous of a partner's relationship with a pet?
126. Have disagreements about pets ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
127. Do you consider yourself liberal, moderate, or conservative, or do you reject political labels? What was the attitude in your family about political involvement and social action?
128. Do you belong to a political party? Are you actively involved?
129. Did you vote in the last presidential election? Congressional election? Local election?
130. Do you believe that two people of differing political ideologies can have a successful marriage?
131. Do you believe that the political system is skewed against people of color, poor people, and the disenfranchised?
132. Which political issues do you care about? (equality, national security, privacy,
the environment, women's rights, gay rights, human rights, etc).
133. Has politics ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
134. Is it important for you to be involved in your local community?
135. Do you like having a close relationship with your neighbors?
136. Do you regularly participate in community projects?
137. Do you believe that good fences make good neighbors?
138. Have you ever had a serious dispute with a neighbor?
139. Do you take pains to be considerate of your neighbors?
140. How important is it to you to contribute time or money to charity?
141. Which kind of charities do you like to support? How much of your annual income do you donate to charity?
142. Do you feel that it is the responsibility of the "haves" of the world to help the "have nots"?
143. Have attitudes about charitable contributions ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
144. Have you served in the military?
145. Have your parents or other relatives served in the military?
146. Would you want your children to serve in the military?
147. Do you personally identify more with a nonviolent approach, or with making change through military force and action?
148. Has military service or attitudes about military service ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
149. Do you consider yourself a law abiding person?
150. Have you ever committed a crime? If yes, what was it?
151. Have you ever been arrested? If yes, for what?
152. Have you ever been in jail? If yes, why?
153. Have you ever been involved in a legal action or lawsuit? If yes, what were the circumstances?
154. Have you ever been the victim of a violent crime? If yes, describe what happened.
155. Do you believe it's important to be rigorously honest?
156. Have you ever failed to pay child support? If so, why?
157. Have legal or criminal issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
158. Where do you get your news?
159. Do you believe what you read and see in the news? Do you question what the true agenda is?
160. Do you seek out media with diverse perspectives on the news?
161. Have media differences ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
162. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?
163. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?
164. When you were growing up, did your family belong to a church, synagogue, temple, or mosque?
165. Do you currently practice a different religion from the one in which you were raised?
166. Do you believe in life after death?
167. Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions (dietary, social, familial, sexual) that would affect your partner?
168. Do you consider yourself a religious person? A spiritual person?
169. Do you engage in spiritual
practices outside of organized religion?
170. How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious beliefs?
171. How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?
172. Is spirituality a part of your daily life and practice?
173. Has religion or spiritual practice ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
174. Does popular culture have an important impact on your life?
175. Do you spend time reading about, watching, or discussing actors, musicians, models, or other celebrities?
176. Do you think most celebrities have a better life than you do?
177. Do you regularly go to the movies? Do you prefer to rent movies and watch them at home?
178. What is your favorite style of music?
179. Do you attend concerts featuring your favorite musicians?
180. Do you enjoy going to museums or art shows?
181. Do you like to dance?
182. Do you like to watch TV for entertainment? What do you watch?
183. Have attitudes or behaviors around popular culture ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
184. What is your idea of a fun day?
185. Do you have a hobby that's important to you?
186. Do you enjoy sports?
187. Are certain seasons off limits for other activities because of football, baseball, basketball, or other sports?
188. What activities do you enjoy that don't involve your partner? How important is it to you that you and your partner enjoy the same leisure activities?
189. How much money do you regularly spend on leisure activities?
190. Do you enjoy activities that might make your partner uncomfortable, such as hanging out in bars drinking, going to strip clubs, or gambling?
191. Have leisure time issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
192. Do you enjoy entertaining? Do you worry that you'll do something wrong or people won't have a good time?
193. Is it important for you to attend social events regularly, or does the prospect rarely appeal to you?
194. Do you look forward to at least one night out every week, or do you prefer to enjoy yourself at home?
195. Does your work involve attending social functions? If so, are these occasions a burden or a pleasure? Do you expect your spouse to be present, or do you prefer that your spouse not be present?
196. Do you socialize primarily with people from work? Do you socialize with people from the same ethnic/racial/religious/ socioeconomic background? Do you socialize with a diverse mix of people?
197. Are you usually the life of the party? Do you dislike being singled out for attention?
198. Have you or a partner ever had an argument caused by one or the other's behavior at a social function?
199. Have differences about socializing ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
HOLIDAY AND BIRTHDAYS
200. Which holidays do you believe are the most important to celebrate?
201. Do you maintain a family tradition around certain holidays?
202. How important are birthday celebrations to you? Anniversaries?
203. Have differences about holidays/birthdays ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
TRAVEL / VACATIONS
204. Do you enjoy traveling, or are you a homebody?
205. Are vacation getaways an important part of your yearly planning?
206. How much of your annual income do you designate for vacation and travel expenses?
207. Do you have favorite vacation destinations? Do you believe it's wasteful to spend money on vacations to distant places?
208. Do you think it's important to have a passport? To speak a foreign language?
209. Have disputes about travel and vacation ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
210. What is your level of formal education? Is your education a source of pride or shame?
211. Do you regularly sign up for courses that interest you, or enroll in advanced-learning programs that will help you in your career or profession?
212. Do you think that college graduates are smarter than people who didn't attend college? Have disparities in education ever been a source of tension for you in a relationship, or ended a relationship?
213. How do you feel about private school education for children? Do you have a limit on how much you would be willing to invest in private school education?
214. Have education levels or priorities ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
215. Do you own or lease a car? Would you ever consider not having a car?
216. Is the year, make, and model of the car you drive important to you? Is your car your castle?
217. Are fuel efficiency and environmental protection factors when you choose a car?
218. Given the availability of reliable public transportation, would you prefer not to drive a car at all?
219. How much time do you spend maintaining and caring for your vehicle? Are you reluctant to let others drive your car?
220. How long is your daily commute? Is it by bus, train, car, or carpool?
221. Do you consider yourself a good driver?
222. Have cars or driving ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
223. How much time do you spend on the phone?
224. Do you have a cell phone?
225. Do you spend significant time each day writing emails?
226. Do you have an unlisted telephone number?
227. Do you consider yourself communicative or a private person?
228. What are the circumstances under which you would not answer the telephone or cell phone?
229. Has modem communication ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
230. Do you like to eat most of your meals sitting at the table? Do you tend to eat on the run?
231. Do you love to cook? Do you love to eat?
232. When you were growing up, was it important that everybody be present for dinner?
233. Do you follow a specific diet regimen that limits your food choices? Do you expect others in your household to adhere to certain dietary restrictions?
234. In your family is food ever used as a bribe or a proof of love?
235. Has eating ever been a source of shame for you?
236. Have eating and food ever been a source of tension and stress in a relationship? Have they ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
237. Are there household responsibilities you believe to be the sole domain of a man or a woman? Why do you believe this?
238. Do you believe that marriages are stronger if a woman defers to her husband in most areas? Do you need to feel in control or taken care of?
239. How important is equality in a marriage? Define what you mean by "equality".
240. Do you believe that roles in your family should be filled by the person best equipped for the job, even if it is an unconventional arrangement?
241. How did your family view the roles of girls and boys, men and women?
242. Have different ideas about gender roles ever been a source of tension for you in a relationship, or the cause of a breakup?
RACE, ETHNICITY, AND DIFFERENCES
243. What did you learn about race and ethnic differences as a child?
244. Which of those beliefs from childhood do you still carry? Which have you shed?
245. Does your work environment look more like the United Nations? How about your personal life?
246. How would you feel if your child dated someone of a different race or ethnicity? The same gender? How would you feel if he or she married this person?
247. Are you aware of your own biases regarding race and ethnicity? What are they? Where did they come from?
248. Have race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a source of tension and stress for you in a relationship?
249. What were your family's views of race, ethnicity, and difference?
250. Is it important to you that your partner shares your vision of race, ethnicity, and difference?
251. Have different ideas about race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
252. Would you consider yourself a morning person or a night person?
253. Do you judge people who have a different waking and sleeping clock than you?
254 Are you a physically affectionate person?
255. What is your favorite season of the year?
256. When you disagree with your partner, do you tend to fight or withdraw?
257. What is your idea of a fair division of labor in your household?
258. Do you consider yourself an easy going person? Are you most comfortable with a firm plan of action?
259. How much sleep do you need every night?
260. Do you like to be freshly showered and wearing clean clothes every day, even on weekends or vacations?
261. What is your idea of perfect relaxation?
262. What makes you really angry? What do you do when you're really angry?
263. What makes you most joyful? What do you do when you are joyful?
264. What makes you most insecure? How do you handle your insecurities?
265. What makes you most secure?
266. Do you fight fair? How do you know?
267. How do you celebrate when something great happens? How do you mourn when something tragic happens?
268. What is your greatest limitation?
269. What is your greatest strength?
270. What stands in the way of your creating a passionate and caring marriage?
271. What do you need to do today to move toward making your dream marriage a reality?
272. What makes you the most afraid?
273. What drains you of your joy and passion?
274. What replenishes your mind, body, and spirit?
275. What makes your heart smile in tough times?
276. What makes you feel the most alive?
Feng Shui (fung shway) is the ancient chinese art of
placement. Feng Shui design is all about balancing and harmonizing your environment's chi (energy). Through the use of colors, design, and compass directions, you can truly transform your environments. A transformed environment translates to a transformed life. Here are five ways to transform your love life today.
Clutter creates energy blocks in your environment.
Get organized by ridding everything that's nolonger working in your life.
Divide your home into sections for daily or weekly cleaning.
Create bins labeled Trash, Donate, File, and Recycle.
Take your bins to their designated dumping grounds at the end of each day.
This will help you to stay organized and avoid overwhelm for the next day's tasks.
Take a look at everything from furniture clutter to paper clutter.
The feng shui energy starts grooving the minute you start moving!
2. Southwest Sector
The Southwest sector is known as your Love and Relationships
sector. This is the area that governs all of your relationships
(business, family, friends, romance).
Bring in pinks, yellows, beige, white, and a little red to the Southwest.
3. Pair Items
Love starts within before it manifests outward.
See yourself paired up by pairing everything else up. Enjoy two end tables
next to a cozy loveseat, artwork that displays a couple in love, and/or a lovely
dining table set for two. The pairings are truly endless.
4. Bedroom Decor
Your bedroom rules your health and relationships.
Pay attention to the design and decor of the environment.
Make sure that your bed has a side table on each side.
This will manifest equal partnerships.
Have a strong headboard and baseboard as well.
This will manifest stability and security in your relationships.
Bring in the essence of sensuality with silk sheets, faux sheepskin rugs, and cozy blankets. You want to create a relaxing and cozy environment for yourself.
Bedroom No Nos
Avoid blacks and blues. These colors are associated with the water element.
You don't want to water down your relationships.
Avoid a home office in the bedroom. Your bedroom is for rest and relaxation.
Avoid mirrors that reflect the bed. Mirrors bounce energy around. This disturbs your health and sleep. Mirrors can also create a "third party" energy in your relationship. Televisions should be covered up or taken out.
You want your bedroom to be a sanctuary where the only distraction is your partner.
5. Create Your Ideal Partner
Knowing what you want will save you a lot of time in relationships.
Create an ideal partner and/or relationship list to place in the Southwest sector.
List the Top 20 qualities that you love about yourself.
This will help you to understand the partner qualities that will compliment you best.
Enjoy a Personal Feng Shui Consultation for Love HERE.