The 5 Love Languages are based off the popular ideas that everyone has ways that they feel and show Love.
This can help people build rapport with friends, family, and partnerships.
The image above is actually "I Love You" in sign language. Body language is a great Love Language in itself. :)
The 5 Love Languages are...
Words of Affirmations aka Compliments
Acts of Service aka Taking Initiatives
Physical Touch aka Massage Therapy
Many people have more than one Love Language that they prefer.
I'm sure you can figure out your Top 3 preferences.
PSA: As an entrepreneur, I often view relationships as a working teammate situation. I don't mind the monthly relationship "business meeting" walks, talks, and/or spa days. You get a little quality time in there as well. I also don't mind receiving and giving gifts of cash. Treating someone to something in a direct way is easy for me, esp if I'm available to do so. You avoid the "middle man" that way. It just makes everyone's life easier at times due to the assertiveness involved. You may even receive things for Free by just stating what you want. I can't even tell you how many last minute concerts in the 90s allowed me in for Free by just going to the source. Actually I can tell you. It was actually 4 concerts (one comedy show included). lol It was all Kosher though.
The point is that your Love Language often works with the Universe as well!
Street and event musicians know what's up as well. It's never too early to share your gifts your own way. There's nothing better than just paying an independent artist directly. It would be great if we could do that with all artists though. Anyone can start a business though.
Find your balance with others and ask about their Love Language(s) from the start. This will save you and others so much time!
Keep Loving On! :)
I love having crushes. I've had them since childhood. Crushes (platonic or otherwise) can really show you what qualities you admire in others. These are qualities that you may need to bring up within yourself.
My first crush was Michael Jackson. I loved his music and his dance ability. As a child dancer, I was really jealous when my dancer friend got to meet him in Paris via a dance competition. When I asked her about the whole experience, she wasn't even phased. I was like "forget you then". haha We remained friends though. She was more into TLC back in the day...like old school TLC. We were just around 8 or 9 years old. East coast kids had good taste in the 80s and 90s. ;)
The great thing about crushes is that you can have as many as you want! It's really not a big deal to meet them either. You can admire them from afar as you better yourself.
The funny thing is that many people who get into relationships never really had a crush on their partners. Those relationships don't really last either. Just saying. Crushes can help you determine what you're looking for in a relationship though.
If you're still searching for love, just get a crush instead. There may be more work for you to do beforehand. Atleast the crush can keep you company and entertained along the way. It may even be mutual one day...even if it all ends up in spirit form. Just saying. lol
As much as couples need a little spontaneity every now and then, routines really do keep relationships "sane". This can also apply to the relationship with yourself!
Here are some things to take into consideration...
* Your Biorhythms (energy patterns) - Knowing you and your partner's high and low days can save you a lot of time on the "mood swings". You can check them HERE. I talked about more compatibility aspects HERE.
* Your PMS days - Men have these days too! This is a prime time for taking your partner out to eat, out to drink, and/or bringing it all in to them. You think most Mukbangs happen around this time? Try to keep the majority of the foods that you consume in the low sugar and low salt range IF you can. Otherwise you'll both have to deal with cramps and/or crampy moods later!
* Your Birthdays - This is just in case you forget. You may want to write down the age that you or your partner will be. I stopped doing the math and caring after age 35. You're as old as you look and feel in my opinion. You may want to include other special occasions if they are important to you.
* Spa Days - Self care days should always be marked down to remind yourself to Chillax.
Enjoy some time off to enjoy a little pampering.
* Date Nights - Date nights should be scheduled based on mutual moods and mutual interests.
It's good to plan atleast 3 to 6 days in advance to avoid "cancellation highs".
Fellow Millennials love cancelling plans that they never wanted to do in the first place.
You may want to plan further in advance for travel plans, concerts, etc though.
* Errand Days - These are great to mark for grocery deliveries, package deliveries, and/or errands that you actually run.
Frugal couples know when the best sale days are for just about everything.
Mid week errands are often low on the crowds. They can also be good travel and sightseeing days.
* Adulting Days - These are days to handle your foundations (health, career, finances, home, etc). Solid foundations = Solid relations.
* Pet Care - Animals need routines as well. Your fur babies will appreciate it.
Ex: My little hamster in spirit always knew when it was play time. He was taken out of his cage to run around in a supervised area at exactly 7 pm. Hamsters are active during the evening vs day. Make sure to learn about your pet's biological nature. This routine kept him from escaping his cage like Houdini. Even if the clock went 5 minutes past that time, he would look at me like "What's up Denise? Are we going to do this or what?" That's how his personality sounded in my head. lol
Some animals (Ex: dogs) like having a job to do as well. Give them a little backpack to carry with their own water, snacks, etc during walks. You can also take your cat(s) out on a leash. They actually do like the outdoors! Stray cats in Asia are chilling at the parks and seaside all of the time. :)
The funniest vision/meditation/lucid dream came about as I was taking a little nap after drinking some detox tea. If you need a calming high vibration lift, take more time for Tea Time!
The vision that showed up was hilarious.
I don't play around with energy balls much, but I did mention it in my Telekinesis post. Energy balls can be created by gathering energy from around you. You simply visualize a rainbow of colors and shape the energy into a ball. You can "throw" it into a room for example for a calming effect. Green and blue are good colors to use.
The actual vision/dream showed the game of dodgeball though. It came completely out of the blue. I was playing a game of dodgeball with the Kpop group A.C.E.
Disclaimer: Don't take offense to what I'm about to say though. Have a sense of humor along with me. It's a fun way to figure out your Bias in groups and/or life, esp if you're choosing between relationship (friendships, acquaintances, etc) potentials.
Some of yall really need to get off those dating sites by the way. ;)
Anyhoo...I was on a team with Junhee and telling him to focus. I'm a typical Sagittarius when it comes to sports. We were playing against Channie and Donghun. What I didn't realize until the end was that Donghun and I were on the same team. This is how the World plays out for those unaware. There's always people playing both sides of the coin.
During the game, I told Channie to respect his elders. He decided to get Junhee out the game with Donghun. While he was doing that, I threw the ball at Channie. He looked at me like WTF? Wow then came in as the replacement. He looked like he came to play. That's when fellow Rooster Donghun signaled to me to aim for Wow's ankles. Wow has strong Rooster thighs by the way. In doing that, Donghun and I won the game, hugged, and cheered as the winners. We then walked off somewhere to get a drink. haha It really does sound shady, but it really did show me who my bias was in the group. I couldn't stop laughing as I opened my eyes from this odd lucid state. I decided to try it with other Kpop groups (ASTRO, Shinee, etc) that I like. The results were just as hilarious in terms of the teams that played out, the neutral referees, etc.
I suggest you all try this Meditation, Lucid Dreaming, Vision, etc exercise for yourself.
Do it for fun or to make a decision in your life.
You can still love everybody in the end though. Choices.
What do you really want from a relationship?
When I hear about people's desires for their ideal relationship, it can often get extremist. You just want to suggest that they get a dog and that's it. There's often a balanced mindset missing.
Even thinking back to my past entanglements/relationships, I saw how lazy they were. It's the classic complaint that many women have of "We never wanted to do shit" or "He never wanted to do shit". lol Even though I enjoyed men cooking for me, paying for things, DIYing things for me, and having their cats or puppies in my presence, I was like eh and left them all. Why? I wanted to travel, do some cooking of my own, avoid marriage and children, and keep things egalitarian. The pets with fruit names to a passed Italian mother hanging on the living room wall was also a bit much. It's all rather comedic in retrospect. I don't want to make time for that stand up routine though. ;)
Why is balance so difficult for couples to bring into their lives though?
People just get lazy!
Relationships take work and planning to keep things stimulating.
As a rule of thumb, it's best to treat your relationships like a "business" sometimes. Remember the Universe vibrates to 3s. Checking in with one another every 3 weeks for a relationship "business meeting" can really help in planning out the next bucket list adventures, music events, exotic food adventures, instrument purchases, gaming consoles, etc.
These are just examples on how to keep the inner child as happy as the inner adult.
Both are necessary for a long term union. :)
This is a follow up to the Create Your Own Future post that you will need to read first HERE.
Simply write out your Top 20 Qualities and the Top 20 Qualities that you would like in a partner. Make sure their qualities compliment your own.
Now you can do the Yes or No exercises for other areas like physical looks (height, eye color, race, etc). You can have fun with it like the childhood game of M.A.S.H. with categories like meeting, living, etc. Some things you may already know from instincts.
Example: I already know from previous interracial relationships and childhood friends that I'll settle down in a Blasian relationship this time around. Some thing are obvious. Baby faces for life! hehe
If you don't like your answers, you can always change up the course. However with relationships, it's often best to just go with the flow. :)
With 2020 being a new 12 year cycle, many things can manifest in 3-4 years if you're ready!
I spoke a bit about how the first vowel of your first name can show what you desire on a soul level. You can read it HERE.
Now I want to talk about having more than one of the same vowel in your first name. I will speak about the Strengths and Weaknesses.
More than one A: #1 Intensity
Strengths - Independent, Initiating
Weaknesses - Competitive, Self Centered, Perfectionist
More than one E: #5 Intensity
Strengths - Adventures, Variety, Down to Earth
Weaknesses - Restless, Dramatic, Hard to Commit
More than one I: #9 Intensity
Strengths - Leadership, Alternative Medicine
Weaknesses - Repressed, Emotional Reassurance Needs,
Needs to Heal the Past to avoid Projections
More than one O: #6 Intensity
Strengths - Domestic, Business Centered, Leadership
Weaknesses - Controlling, Doesn't ask for help, Takes on too much
More than one U: #3 Intensity
Strengths - Creative, Chatty, Social
Weaknesses - Dramatic, Fibbing, Hard to Commit
This is not really a humor post. It's actually based on the many things that I've observed over the years...and recently. There are certain things that give off an "unproblematic" vibe to others, despite sex, race, sexuality, etc. The funny thing that I've observed though is that some of these shifts actually create mental shifts as well!
P.S. This only applies to "sane" people though. The corrupt will just look like manipulative clowns.
Just feel out someone's aura at the end of the day.
Here's what I've observed...
Glasses = Perception of Intelligence.
Some people wear glasses without lenses for fashion purposes. Some wear them with lenses for eyesight. It's all up to you how you do style them.
Cross Necklaces = Perception of Morals.
We all know this could easily be paired with a bible for a "photo op" for some people. It doesn't matter how religious or goth you are, people seem to associate crosses with some form of moral compass. You can say the same about Angel decor, Angel costumes, etc.
There's no doubt that both cross necklaces and angel decor can influence how someone presents themselves. It may have a positive " What Would Jesus Do?" effect on the subconscious mind for those who consciously include them. It can be a tricky styling though, esp if you've been around music and religious institutions where the WWJD gets completely lost.
Green Drinks = Perception of Health.
Although I'm a regular drinker of Kale and fruit powders, those who carry around or highlight green drinks in their daily life do come off as health conscious.
The "sanity" perception is off and on depending on how much you talk about your intakes. lol There's no doubt that health and nutrition are important for mental health though...something lacking in so many people today.
Compatibility is based on many different factors. You can keep it simple by trusting your instincts or analyze the hell out of it. I do a little bit of both. ;)
All relationships are just mirrors at the end of the day. They reflect the qualities that we need to bring up within and/or release. All relationships are about personal growth.
Here are some fun ways to determine your compatibility with people (friends, family, lovers, etc).
* Mutual Interests and Values – This is pretty straightforward. Having mutual interests and values allows for easier communications and quality time. If you don’t know what your interests are, think back to your childhood. What did you enjoy?
* Biorhythm Compatibility (energy rhythms) – Your Physical (energy levels), Emotional (moods), and Intellectual (comprehension) levels are calculated with your birthdate.
Example: Someone with the same month, day, and year of birth will always be 100% matched on all levels. You both would be energetic at the same times, in positive moods at the same times, and chatty at the same times.
* Western Zodiac Signs – Your best zodiac matches can be based on the same element and/or element cycles.
Example: Fire Signs (Sagittarius, Aries, Leo), Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn), Air Signs (Libra, Gemini, Aquarius), Water Signs (Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio)
Example: Element Cycles (Air Signs fuel Fire Signs to make them more passionate (good or bad)
* Chinese Zodiac Signs – Your best animal matches for love are great for friendships and/or romantic relationships. You can befriend any animal in the zodiac though to learn from.
* Face Reading Features – People are generally attracted to people that look like them. I’m not talking about race though. I’ve seen some adorable interracial couples (Blasians, etc) that share many of the same facial features (rounded faces (nurturing), upward eyes (optimistic), full lips (outspoken), widow’s peaks (androgynous), dimples (great sense of humor), etc).
You would think they were twins! It's not unusual though. Some women have given birth to two separate races of twins, different sexes of twins, etc. Homogeneous is a myth. Ah Science! ;)
* First Name Vowel – The first vowel is the “Soul Vowel”. It describes how someone is at the soul level, especially in their vocal communication styles!
Example: A, O (likes to get to the point in vocal conversations), E,I,U (likes to shoot the breeze and build rapport in vocal conversations).
Now you can see all the ways to determine compatibility.
It’s why people from all walks of life can get along in the World. Just find out what you have in common with people vs. what you don’t. That’s how to live your life in general.
Stay positive everyone! :)
Sagittarius Rooster with Over 20 Years Expertise in Metaphysics.