Ah Love. It can be a wonderful journey of self discovery when higher perspectives are taken into account. Many often get confused when words like "soulmate" are thrown around though. I often hear "I'm looking for my soulmate" or "I thought he/she was my soulmate?". The truth is that we have many soulmates! Trust me! I know! I also know how to move on from them (if necessary) so that the next ones can arrive. This is why I am writing this post. :)
Soulmates are people that we have chosen to learn life lessons from. Many come in from previous lifetimes to resolve spiritual karmic debts. They don't guarantee happily ever after for this reason! They can come in many forms as well (parents, teachers, bosses, siblings, friendships, crushes, dating partners, marriage partners, etc). Magnetic attractions are often at work to get us into many of our romantic/sexual soulmate unions. Once we are in, it can be quite a ride of self discovery, esp when it comes to discovering our Egos!
The word Ego is not a bad word though. Egos are there to push us forward in life. Ego helps us to achieve our goals. The Ego becomes a hindrance in relationships when it's used to restrict ourselves and/or our partners. This is when the Ego becomes focused on wanting control over a relationship vs. allowing a relationship freedom. I see this all the time with couples who go back and forth with ex partnerships, esp when the ex attempts to move on into a new relationship. It can get even more dramatic when children and step parenting are involved. It doesn't have to be that way though.
The best thing to do in these cases is to look at the qualities that you still admire about the other person. Relationships act as mirrors at the end of the day. Two people are simply reflecting the same qualities within one another. Bringing those positive qualities up within helps couples to focus more on their own inner strengths. This builds an independent vs. dependent mindset in relationships. The mutual and secure appreciation creates a True Love bond during and after the relationship's expiration date.
Understanding how the Universe works is also crucial. The Universe vibrates to 3s. Checkpoints in relationships for reevaluations often come in multiples of 3s. Every 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 3 years, 6 years, etc, are major checkpoints. These checkpoints become even stronger when couples choose to get married. The 9th and 12th year are often some of the strongest reevaluation checkpoints for long term couples. An ideal way to take on these checkpoints is to travel. Getting away from your normal stomping grounds can breathe new life into healthy relationships that are seeking a refresh. Unhealthy relationships that didn't have many positive reflections will use these checkpoints to go their separate ways. This is when the couple's unhealthy shared qualities can get the healing that is necessary and required. :) <3