I personally use Chinese New Year (Feb 5th Year of the Pig for 2019) as my Official New Year. I personally recommend asking for someone's Chinese Astrology Sign before their Western Astrology Sign, esp in romantic relationships.
Guess my Chinese Animal Sign from the image above. My Sagittarius Western Astrology Sign just adds to fun barnyard mix! You'll eventually start to see everyone as the animals that they are...atleast until the robots take over. ;)
Chinese Astrology is based on a 12 year cycle with an animal representing each year. Each animal has a different personality with negative (things you need to improve/release) and positive characteristics (things you need to bring up more).
Discover your Basic Chinese Animal Sign Personality and Chinese Astrology Compatibility below...
Rat – 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996
-Inventive, Critical, Charming, Temperamental, Opportunist, Deep Thinking
Ox/Cow – 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997
-Patient, Hardworking, Stubborn, Methodical, Temperamental, Reliable, Leaders
Tiger – 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998
-Sensitive, Emotional, Stubborn, Charming, “Rebel”, Initiating, Adventurous
Rabbit – 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999
-Affectionate, Cautious, Sentimental, Superficial, People Pleasing, "Conservative"
Dragon – 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000
-Energetic, Sensitive, “Lucky”, Outspoken, Popular, Demanding, Perfectionist
Snake – 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001
-Romantic, Wise, Charming, Deep Thinkers, Loner, Intuitive, Stingy
Horse - 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002
-Independent, Hardworking, Adventurous, Selfish, Perceptive
Sheep/Goat – 1967, 1979, 1991, 2003
-Charming, Shy, Worrier, Elegant, Materialistic, Artistic
Monkey – 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004
-Clever, Magnetic, Witty, Opportunist, Flexible, Strong-willed
Rooster/Chicken – 1969, 1981, 1993, 2005
-Hardworking, Critical, Talented, Loner, Blunt, Perfectionist, Flashy, Intuitive, Eccentric
Dog – 1970, 1982, 1994, 2006
-“Loyal”, Worrier, Honest, Critical, Sharp, Family oriented
Pig – 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007
-Goal oriented, Sincere, Materialistic, Tolerant, Naïve, Giver and Taker
The chart below is based on Your Ideal Matches for Love.
*A Challenging Compatibility simply requires Greater Efforts from Both Animals*
* Pigs and Oxes often get along when the Pigs are Loyal *
Anti-aging is a word that has had its share of "antis". It's funny though because there's nothing wrong with aging. It's a matter of how Fast or how Sloooow you wish to age that matters. Make the decision early on to avoid aging regrets. ;)
Luckily there's a simple way to age gracefully without the assistance of needles and/or surgeons...Nom Noms! It's the foodies way of life! Eating collagen rich foods will keep you youthful for years to come! Collagen Powder works well too! ;)
Thanksgiving is actually one of the healthiest holidays for collagen rich foods, esp when the food is cooked with quality ingredients. Simply follow the healthy plate guidelines (1/4 fruit, 1/4 veggies, 1/4 starches, 1/4 protein) to create a variety of colorful collagen meals.
Enjoy some of these healthy collagen producing foods to keep your skin, hair, nails, joints, and muscles smooth, elastic, hydrated, and youthful. Focus on garden fresh and/or frozen organic varieties to get the most nutritional benefits...
Have you ever wondered why you're attracted to different types of people?
Our love attractions often vibrate to 3s like the Universe. The three types of lovers that we often have in life are the...
Serious Dating Types
Life Partner Types
Casual Dating Types
You can determine which type of personality fits your current commitment desires by looking at your birthday. Simply use your Month and Day of Birth for this reading. Your Month of Birth will be reduced down to a single digit between 1-9. Your Day of Birth will also be reduced down to a single digit between 1-9.
Your Casual Dating Types are determined by your Month of Birth. These are your "Temptations". These are your Bias Wreckers. It's best to bring these "bias wrecking" qualities into your committed relationships to avoid cheating.
Your Serious Dating and Life Partner Types are determined by the Day of Birth. These are the types of people that you'll feel the most comfortable with. It's who you want to come home to at the end of the day. <3
I was born December 20th (12-20)
The 12th=#3 and the 20th=#2
My Casual Dating/Bias Wrecking Types are #3 type people.
My Serious Dating Types and Life Partner Types are #2 type people.
* This simply means that people with #2 qualities will be the most ideal. It doesn't mean that you should ONLY seek out people born on #2 reduced down days!
Number 1 = The number 1 type of person is independent, confident, strives to be the "best", and enjoys direct/honest conversations.
Number 2 = The number 2 type of person is intuitive, sensitive, sensual, personable, enjoys pampered relaxation, and nurtures people, nature, and/or animals.
Number 3 = The number 3 type of person is communicative, creative, fickle, sensual, open minded, and has a good sense of humor.
Number 4 = The number 4 type of person is organized, devoted, worrisome, desires security and stability, and enjoys nature.
Number 5 = The number 5 type of person is travel friendly, restless, enjoys DIY projects, sensual, and is always multitasking.
Number 6 = The number 6 type of person is domestic, business oriented, likes being in control, and enjoys nurturing people, nature, and/or animals.
Number 7 = The number 7 type of person is studious, intuitive, enjoys a lot of alone time to recharge, and enjoys nature.
Number 8 = The number 8 type of person is honest, desires the "best", enjoys financial stability with age, and is often well dressed.
Number 9 = The number 9 type of person is sensitive, desires humanitarian and leadership work, desires to heal their pasts, and enjoys relaxation with alternative medicine care.
The Feng Shui Bedroom is all about Minimalism. Your bedroom rules your health and relationships (business to pleasure). Less is truly more when it comes to both actually! Keeping your bedroom simple, clean, and relaxing is the way to go...
Discover How to Harmonize Your Home with a Personal Consultation HERE.
Do You Need More Sleep?
A great night's sleep is necessary for a healthy mind, body, and spirit.
A good 8-10 hours of sleep benefits your memory, life span, body's metabolism, and brain's alertness. Sleep alleviates stress, depression, and inflammatory diseases.
Here are 10 ways to achieve a great sleep tonight...
1. Lavender Oil
Lavender oil is a relaxing oil that only requires a dab.
Dab on the soles of your feet for instant absorption, your neck, and/or your scalp.
2. Organic Chamomile Tea
Chamomile tea is a warm and soothing tea to enjoy 30 minutes
before bedtime. It's a wonderful way to wind down for the night.
3. Magnesium Powder
The body requires magnesium for muscle and nerve health.
We can get it from our food and/or supplements. The reason many of us are irritable and/or constipated is due to a lack of magnesium. Smokers are the most deficient. Magnesium is a natural stress reliever as well.
4. Eye Masks
Eye masks are great for blocking out distracting light.
The brain instantly goes into sleeping mode in pitch darkness.
5. Ear Plugs
Ear plugs can assist you on vacations and/or next
to a snoring partner. I would suggest that you or your partner sleep in different rooms if the snoring is really bad. Your health comes first!
6. Rain Soundtracks
Who doesn't love the sound of rain?
Some of our best sleep comes during a rainstorm.
Zzzz off to sleep with a free 24/7 rain stream via www.rainymood.com.
7. Satin Sheets
Combine with satin pajamas and you're good to go for a wrinkle free sleep!
8. Comfortable Mattress
Try an organic memory foam mattress, mattress pads, and/or mattress futon. Take note of your ideal sleeping heights. Some people sleep better when they are low to the ground.
Body pillows and memory foam pillows are great for receiving a great night's sleep.
Sleep on two satin pillows for the perfect wrinkle free beauty sleep.
This will reduce bags and black circles from forming as well.
Place a pillow between your legs to align your body if you sleep on your side.
The ideal beauty sleep position is on your back though!
10. Blackout Curtains
The brain instantly goes into sleeping mode
with pitch darkness. Combine with a blackout eye mask for great sleeping results!
Having a great sense of humor + a healthy mind, body, and spirit will always help you to cope with life. Mental breaks via Staycations are another great way!
Here are some ways to enjoy a Mental Staycation of your own...
* Magnesium - Magnesium is a beneficial mineral for body relaxation and function. High stress times can deplete this vital mineral to the max. Enjoying Epsom Salt soaks, high magnesium foods, and/or Magnesium Powder supplements can help. You can take two teaspoons at night to sleep like a baby. You can also take it throughout the day to ease stresses. Enjoy those nap times.
* Decorate in Blue - It can however bring a cooling and relaxing sensation to living rooms, esp in the North, East, and Southeast sectors of the home. Beach themed decor can really transform any space into a seaside retreat. Simply get creative with ocean curtains, water fountains, and/or ocean soundtracks.
* 2nd Hand Travel - You don't have to leave the comforts of home in order to travel. You can always find someone who has been there and done that around the World. Check out fun locations via travel blogs, vlogs, and tripadvisor. Order your own room service via your favorite local spots as you "cruise" along.
* Local Travel - Staycations at a local resort and/or luxury vacation rental can mentally take you away from your daily surroundings, esp during the off seasons. It's a great way to travel if you're not in the mood to board a long distance plane, train, and/or car. There's always Fall for that. ;)
Why are you always so happy? Why are you always laughing? What's so funny? Blah blah blah. I've heard it all throughout my life from those who don't get it and those who want more of it! ;)
We all have days when we aren't always in the mood to smile or laugh though. Those are the days that you can easily shift with a few happiness tips...
*SMILE - Even if you're not in the mood, Just Do It! haha Smiling for 30 seconds releases your happy chemicals. Try it out! :)
*LAUGH - Everyone has something that makes them laugh every single time. You can even start thinking about it right now. Laughing for atleast 15 minutes will instantly change your mood!
*ORGANIZE - Worry keeps a lot of people unhappy. A decluttered and organized life can calm you down. Try delegating tasks, writing out your monthly To Do list on yellow paper with blue pens (memory retention), and creating a morning or nightly routine (meals, clothing, skincare, etc).
*SHORT HAIR - Short hairstyles are definitely subjective. Any woman who has kept her hair at shoulder length or shorter has felt the instant stress relief! Allow your hair's "dead energy" to go every month and/or season.
*EXERCISE - Athletic kids and adults can all attest to the happiness that comes from a workout session, esp if you're doing something active like martial arts, boxing, etc. Tai chi, Yoga, Belly dancing, Hula, etc are also great when you want more zen.
*CREATIVITY - Art in all of its forms can bring you happiness. Try playing an instrument, dancing to a good beat, and doodling with some pencils or paints.
*FOOD - Food makes a lot of people happy. The happiest meals will come in a rainbow of colors. Supplements like magnesium, omega 3 krill oil or fish oil, and vitamin D can also benefit you. All of these supplements will calm your nerves, keep your skin and heart healthy, and take care of your body's Vit D sunshine needs. Potassium is another great mineral to get into your system. Many people are deficient. Enjoy more salmon, sweet potatoes, bananas, avocados, spinach, etc.
*ANIMALS - Animals make a lot of people happy. Volunteer at an animal shelter, rescue a pet that fits your lifestyle, become a pet sitter, visit a dog park, and/or simply enjoy some cute animal videos.
*MUSIC - Music is probably one of the greatest "happy pills" to take in life. Turn on your favorite BOPS. If you're really in the mood to chill, try some Smooth Jazz! Nothing says relaxation better than instrumentals. :)
If you're headed out on a spiritual adventure, there are a few Zen tips that you may want to consider beforehand...
1. Trust Your Gut - Most people know where they'd like to visit around the World. This can be due to past lives and/or present life interests. One trick that you can use is to place an image of a map under your pillow. Literally sleeping on it can bring in intuitive dreams. This will give you an idea of locations that are best suited for your current energy needs.
2. Stick to the Universal 3s - The Universe vibrates in 3s. Take note of the Top 3 countries, states, cities, etc that you wish to visit. You can even take note of the Top 3 landmarks, restaurants, hiking trails, hotels, etc that you wish to visit as well. This can help you to organize your travels without getting overwhelmed. You can even plan a 3 month trip out with 3 week stays in each spot.
3. Stay at Zen Hotels, Rentals, etc - Look for minimalist locations that pride themselves in relaxation. Japantown in San Fran for example is a Japanese escape from the rest of the city. A lot of cities and countries often have zen spots for you to choose from.
4. Incense & Salts - Incense is a great way to smudge your new locations, souvenirs, etc. Everything holds energy. It's personally how women and men mark their territory in dating relationships. They buy you stuff. lol Take some incense sticks with you to give your aura and your possessions a once over. Holding things in your hands before purchasing them can often give you an intuitive sense as well. This is a form of psychometry (feeling out an object's energy). Less is generally more though. Consider if you're actually going to put any souvenir to use.
Epsom bath salts provide your aura with an auric cleanse after a long day of hiking and/or relaxing. You'll also get a healthy dose of relaxing magnesium.
5. Food Options - High vibration foods will keep you feeling energized and less weighed down during your travels. Gather up some fruits and veggie meals via grocery store stops, grocery store delivery services, and/or room service. Discover what's available beforehand to save you time.
6. All Inclusive - Sometimes it's best to just go with an all inclusive resort that does everything for you. These spa resort retreats can really put your mind at ease if you're not into planning activities, meals, etc beforehand.
Happy Zen Travels!
Discover how colors influence your chakras (the body's energy centers) and your overall wellbeing. Work with the colors through food and color visualizations to stimulate and balance your system.
Purple - Purple is a spiritual, creative, and extravagant color. It's a royal color that can be used to boost our self esteem and relax our minds. Purple is associated with your spiritual crown chakra.
Blue - Blue is a peaceful, relaxing, and cooling color. It's a trusting color that can open communications. Indigo and Blue are associated with your sixth sensory third eye chakra and communicative throat chakra.
Green - Green is a relaxing, nurturing, and fertile color. It's a calming color that can relax just about anyone. It's a grounding color that can bring you inner peace. Green is associated with your loving heart chakra.
Yellow - Yellow is an energetic, intellectual, and cheerful color. It's a mental color that can assist in your memory retention, esp when combined with blue. Yellow is associated with your life force solar plexus chakra.
Orange - Orange is a happy, energetic, and social color. It's a stimulating color that can boost your creativity. Orange is associated with your sexual and creative sacral chakra.
Red - Red is a powerful, passionate, and aggressive color. It's a strong color that catches everyone's attention. Red is associated with your
grounded base chakra.
It's really quite funny how exaggerated the Paranormal becomes via medias, esp when people don't really understand what's going on. Even though I was a fan of the Sixth Sense, the child's experience wasn't every child's experience. Many children like myself experienced passed loved ones as if they were actually living, not as zombies. Children who experience negative spirits have negative energies in the home and/or on the land. Mother Earth holds residual energies aka your haunted hotels and houses, haunted parks, haunted rivers, etc.
Everyone is Born Psychic - I've yet to meet a baby who wasn't telepathic (our natural spirit language) with their family pet and/or family members. It's the adults that tune out of their natural spiritual gifts and get frustrated. The 3rd dimension realities just get in the way. The good news is that you can always connect back to your natural gifts through quiet forms of meditation (walking in a park, gardening, doing chores, sleeping/dreams, etc). The more time you take to work with your intuition, the more it becomes a part of your daily life.
Everyone has Spirit Guides - Spirit guides are spirits that have lived the human experience before. They agree to assist you on your life path before you incarnate. They provide you with insights during your dreams and waking life. They are the ones that act as gatekeepers and translators for mediums who connect with passed loved ones. Many people have three guides. They can act as a main guide that stands to your right for daily life insights, a protector guide for astral travels, and/or a secondary main guide that comes in later in life. Your guides do indeed switch up based on your maturity phases.
You can get to know your guides by simply surrounding yourself with golden white light, requesting that they come close, and asking them questions.
Ex: Is there one spirit guide around me? Are there two spirit guides around me? Are you female? Are you male? etc. Click the Human Pendulum Exercise for assistance.
You can make requests of your spirit guides as well. If you want your spirit guide to provide a spirit touch on a certain part of your body, just ask. This is their way of letting you now that they are around for intuitive support.
Everyone has Angels and Passed Loved Ones - Angels have never incarnated for a human experience. They can however come in human form for a short amount of time to provide messages and support. Simply request the type of Angel that you need for assistance (Angel of Love, Angel of Peace, Angel of Protection, etc). Passed loved ones can also act as "angels" for assistance, messages, and comfort. You simply need to speak to them as you would normally. You can simply do it in your head (telepathy).
Ghosts/Spirits, Aliens, Faeries, and many other "Mysteries" are Real - This is where some people roll their eyes or get scared. I really don't know why though. A collective belief can manifest anything into reality for starters. If you don't believe in something, no big deal. Keep calm and carry on. There are many people in other countries who believe in the fae realm for instance. They claim that fairy tales came about to hide their presence when organized religions took over. All of these beings exist in the 4th dimensional planes for the most part. They are known as Inter-dimensional beings. I've personally experienced many "mysteries" during my trips around the U.S, during meditation sessions, viewing people's auras, etc. Needless to say, it's all quite normal for me. Psychic "self control" is really the key to staying sane aka minding my business. ;)
Apply the human pendulum technique by simply working with your body's energy. My experiences with Tai Chi, Martial Arts, and Reiki Healing have taught me one thing. Energy is everywhere! Utilize the Universe's unlimited source to maintain mental, emotional, and physical health.
The human pendulum exercise is a simple technique...
TIPS: Start by asking what your name is to test your body. This is an effortless exercise. If you feel that you're forcing a movement, simply start again at STEP 2.
Relax - Roll your shoulders back, take three deep breathes, and place a smile on your face. Animals are very empathetic. They can instantly pick up your energy and moods. Cats have often shown themselves entering and leaving a room due to their owner's energy.
A relaxed energy is always a welcoming energy for your pets.
Get Level - Get down to your pet's level. You can also bring them up to your level. Standing or leaning over you pet can be threatening. Your pets feel at their best when you are interacting with them on their level.
Visualize - Animals are very visual and telepathic. They can tune into what you're thinking. Your dog knows when he's headed to the vet because of your visual thoughts. Sending your visual intentions to your pets is a wonderful way to communicate with them. You can send loving hearts to physical commands.
Your pets will communicate with you through visuals as well. Simply ask your pets to send you their requests and concerns. Close your eyes to open up to your third eye. Write down everything that you receive. The more you begin to communicate with your pets, the easier it will get.
Every psychic utilizes different Clair (clear) sensory abilities when it comes to tuning into your questions and concerns. All of their abilities are guided along by their trusted spirit guides. Three of the most common abilities that many psychics use are Clairvoyance, Clairaudience, and Clairsentience. All of these clair senses are available for you to open up to as well. We are all psychic at the end of the day. It's not a super power. Be aware of those who describe it as so. These are normal senses. Shielding with white light protection is recommended for those who work with their clair senses on a daily basis.
Clairvoyance - Clairvoyance stands for clear vision. This is the ability to see images, words, numbers, etc clearly in the mind's third eye. This is a common clair sense for many psychics. Visual learners and artists naturally use their clairvoyant abilities as they work from visual inspirations. Many experience clairvoyant messages during their dreams and meditative waking states.
Clairaudience - Clairvoyance stands for clear hearing. This is the ability to hear words, numbers, etc clearly in the mind. Audio learners can fine tune their natural Clairaudience by taking note of the messages that come into their consciousness. Messages can be received in a dream state, waking state, and/or meditative state.
Clairsentience - Clairsentience stands for clear feeling. This is the ability to clearly feel out information from an energetic source. A form of Clairsentience that involves feeling out information from a physical object is known as Psychometry. Empaths who pick up energies around them are natural Clairsentients.
1. Are you working on your chosen field?
2. How many hours a week do you work?
3. What does your job entail?
4. What is your dream job?
5. Have you ever been called a workaholic?
6. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
7. Have you ever been fired?
8. Have you ever quit a job suddenly? Have you changed jobs a lot?
9. Do you consider your work a career or just a job?
10. Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
11. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
12. Do you prefer urban, suburban, or rural settings?
13. Is it important to have your own private home? Do you prefer an apartment or condo living? Do you want a management company responsible for the maintenance? Are you a DIYer? Would you rather hire professionals? Do you prefer to clean your own home or hire a housekeeper?
14. Do you think of your home as a cocoon? Is your door always open? What do you need to feel energized and inspired in your home?
15. Is quiet important in your home? Do you prefer having music or some background noise most of the time? Is it important to have a TV in the bedroom? Living room? Kitchen? Do you like to sleep with the TV or radio on?
16. How important is it for you to have a space in your home that is all yours?
17. Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
18. If you had unlimited resources, how would you live?
19. How important is it for you to make a lot of money?
20. What is your annual income?
21. Do you pay alimony or child support?
22. Do you believe in prenuptial agreements?
23. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
24. Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts? Do you feel that bills should be divided based on a percentage of each person's salary?
25. Who should handle the finances in your family?
26. Do you have significant debts?
27. Do you gamble?
28. Did you have a paying job when you were in high school?
29. Have you ever been called cheap or stingy?
30. Do you believe that a certain amount of money should be set aside for pleasure?
31. Have you ever used money as a way of controlling a relationship? Has anyone ever tried to control you with money?
32. Has money ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
33. Have you ever felt deeply insecure in a relationship? Were you able to name your fear?
34. When was the first time you felt that you were in love with another person? What happened in that relationship?
35. What is the longest relationship you have ever had prior to this one? Why did it end? What lesson did you learn?
36. Have you ever been married? If so, are you divorced or widowed? How do you think you handled the loss?
37. If you have a current partner, do they know of behaviors that you exhibited in your previous relationship that you're not proud of?
38. Do you believe that past relationships should be left in the past and not talked about in your current relationship?
39. Do you tend to judge current partners on past relationships?
40. Have you ever sought marriage counseling? What did the experience teach you?
41. Do you have children from previous marriages or non-marital relationships? What is your relationship with them? How do you see your relationship with them in the future?
42. Have you ever been engaged to be married but didn't go through with the wedding?
43. Have you ever had a live-in partner? Why did you choose to live together instead of marrying? What did your experience teach you about the importance of marriage and about commitment?
44. Do you harbor fears that the person you love might reject you or fall out of love with you?
45. What sexual activities do you enjoy the most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? Be specific! This is no time to hedge.
46. Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?
47. What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?
48. Have you ever been sexually abused or assaulted?
49. What was the attitude toward sex in your family? Was it talked about? Who taught you about sex?
50. Do you use sex to self medicate? If something upsets you, do you use sex to try and help you feel better?
51. Have you ever felt forced to have sex to "keep the peace"? Have you ever forced someone or been told that you forced someone to have sex with you to "keep the peace"?
52. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?
53. Do you enjoy viewing pornography?
54. How often do you need or expect sex?
55. Have you ever a sexual relationship with a person of the same sex?
56. Has sexual dissatisfaction ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
57. How would you describe the current state of your health?
58. Have you ever had a serious illness? Have you ever had surgery?
59. Do you believe it is a sacred responsibility to take care of yourself? Do you believe that taking care of your physical and mental health is a part of honoring your marriage vows?
60. Are there genetic diseases in your family or a history of cancer, heart disease, or chronic illness?
61. Do you have health insurance? Dental insurance?
62. Do you belong to a gym? If so, how much time do you spend at the gym every week?
63. Do you play sports or take exercise classes?
64. Have you ever been in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship?
65. Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?
66. Have you ever been in a serious accident?
67. Do you take medication?
68. Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
69. Have you ever been treated for a mental disorder?
70. Do you see a therapist?
71. Do you smoke?
72. Do you consider yourself an addictive personality? Have you ever suffered from an addiction? Have you ever been told you have an addiction problem, even though you might disagree?
73. How much alcohol do you drink every week?
74. Do you use recreational drugs?
75. Do you have a medical problem that impacts your ability to have a satisfying sex life?
76. Have any of these health problems ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
77. How important is it that you always look your best?
78. How important is your spouse's appearance? Do you have strong preferences about being with a particular physical type?
79. Are there cosmetic procedures that you regularly undergo?
80. Is weight control important to you? Is your spouse's weight important to you? What would your reaction be if your partner were to gain a significant amount of weight?
81. How much money do you spend on clothing every year?
82. Do you worry about getting old? Do you worry about losing your looks?
83. What do you like and dislike about your appearance? When you were a child, were you often complimented or shamed about your looks?
84. What would your reaction be if your spouse lost a limb? How would you handle this loss?
85. Do you feel that you can have good chemistry with someone who is moderately physically attractive to you, or is a strong physical attraction necessary? Has physical appearance or chemistry ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
86. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
87. Would you feel unfulfilled if you were unable to have children?
88. Who is responsible for birth control? What would you do if there were an accidental pregnancy before you planned to have children?
89. What is your view of fertility treatments? Adoption? Would you adopt if you were unable to have a child naturally?
90. What is your view of abortion? Should a husband have an equal say in whether his wife has an abortion? Have you ever had an abortion?
91. Have you ever given birth to a child or fathered a child who was put up for adoption?
92. How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?
93. Do you believe that a good mother will want to breast-feed her baby? Do you believe a mother or father should stay at home with a child during the first six months of life? The first year? Longer?
94. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time out, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?
95. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?
96. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she was sexually active?
97. How would you handle it if you didn't like your child's friends?
98. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she was sexually active?
99. How would you handle it if you didn't like your child's friends?
100. In a blended family, should birth parents be in charge of making decisions for their own children?
101. Would you ever consider getting a vasectomy or having your tubes tied? Do you believe its your choice, or does your partner have a say?
102. Have differences concerning conception or child-raising ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
103. Are you close to your family?
104. Are you or have you ever been alienated from your family?
105. Do you have a difficult time setting limits with family?
106. Have you identified the childhood wound that may have sabotaged your relationships in the past? How were you most hurt in your family? Who hurt you?
107. How important is it that you and your partner be on good terms with each other's families?
108. How did your parents settle conflicts when you were a child? Do people in your family carry grudges?
109. How much influence do your parents still have over your decisions?
110. Have unresolved or ongoing family issues ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
111. Do you have a best friend?
112. Do you see a close friend or friends at least once a week? Do you speak to any of your friends on the phone every single day?
113. Are your friendships as important to you as your life partner is?
114. If your friends need you, are you there for them?
115. Is it important to you for your partner to accept and like your friends?
116. Is it important that you and your partner have friends in common?
117. Do you have a difficult time setting limits with friends?
118. Has a partner ever been responsible for breaking up a friendship? Have friends ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
119. Are you an animal lover?
120. Do you have a dog, cat, or other beloved pet?
121. Is your attitude "Love me, love my dog, etc"?
122. Have you ever been physically aggressive with an animal? Have you deliberately hurt an animal?
123. Do you believe a person should give up his or her pet if it interferes with the relationship?
124. Do you consider pets members of your family?
125. Have you ever been jealous of a partner's relationship with a pet?
126. Have disagreements about pets ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
127. Do you consider yourself liberal, moderate, or conservative, or do you reject political labels? What was the attitude in your family about political involvement and social action?
128. Do you belong to a political party? Are you actively involved?
129. Did you vote in the last presidential election? Congressional election? Local election?
130. Do you believe that two people of differing political ideologies can have a successful marriage?
131. Do you believe that the political system is skewed against people of color, poor people, and the disenfranchised?
132. Which political issues do you care about? (equality, national security, privacy,
the environment, women's rights, gay rights, human rights, etc).
133. Has politics ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
134. Is it important for you to be involved in your local community?
135. Do you like having a close relationship with your neighbors?
136. Do you regularly participate in community projects?
137. Do you believe that good fences make good neighbors?
138. Have you ever had a serious dispute with a neighbor?
139. Do you take pains to be considerate of your neighbors?
140. How important is it to you to contribute time or money to charity?
141. Which kind of charities do you like to support? How much of your annual income do you donate to charity?
142. Do you feel that it is the responsibility of the "haves" of the world to help the "have nots"?
143. Have attitudes about charitable contributions ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
144. Have you served in the military?
145. Have your parents or other relatives served in the military?
146. Would you want your children to serve in the military?
147. Do you personally identify more with a nonviolent approach, or with making change through military force and action?
148. Has military service or attitudes about military service ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
149. Do you consider yourself a law abiding person?
150. Have you ever committed a crime? If yes, what was it?
151. Have you ever been arrested? If yes, for what?
152. Have you ever been in jail? If yes, why?
153. Have you ever been involved in a legal action or lawsuit? If yes, what were the circumstances?
154. Have you ever been the victim of a violent crime? If yes, describe what happened.
155. Do you believe it's important to be rigorously honest?
156. Have you ever failed to pay child support? If so, why?
157. Have legal or criminal issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
158. Where do you get your news?
159. Do you believe what you read and see in the news? Do you question what the true agenda is?
160. Do you seek out media with diverse perspectives on the news?
161. Have media differences ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
162. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?
163. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?
164. When you were growing up, did your family belong to a church, synagogue, temple, or mosque?
165. Do you currently practice a different religion from the one in which you were raised?
166. Do you believe in life after death?
167. Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions (dietary, social, familial, sexual) that would affect your partner?
168. Do you consider yourself a religious person? A spiritual person?
169. Do you engage in spiritual
practices outside of organized religion?
170. How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious beliefs?
171. How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?
172. Is spirituality a part of your daily life and practice?
173. Has religion or spiritual practice ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
174. Does popular culture have an important impact on your life?
175. Do you spend time reading about, watching, or discussing actors, musicians, models, or other celebrities?
176. Do you think most celebrities have a better life than you do?
177. Do you regularly go to the movies? Do you prefer to rent movies and watch them at home?
178. What is your favorite style of music?
179. Do you attend concerts featuring your favorite musicians?
180. Do you enjoy going to museums or art shows?
181. Do you like to dance?
182. Do you like to watch TV for entertainment? What do you watch?
183. Have attitudes or behaviors around popular culture ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
184. What is your idea of a fun day?
185. Do you have a hobby that's important to you?
186. Do you enjoy sports?
187. Are certain seasons off limits for other activities because of football, baseball, basketball, or other sports?
188. What activities do you enjoy that don't involve your partner? How important is it to you that you and your partner enjoy the same leisure activities?
189. How much money do you regularly spend on leisure activities?
190. Do you enjoy activities that might make your partner uncomfortable, such as hanging out in bars drinking, going to strip clubs, or gambling?
191. Have leisure time issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
192. Do you enjoy entertaining? Do you worry that you'll do something wrong or people won't have a good time?
193. Is it important for you to attend social events regularly, or does the prospect rarely appeal to you?
194. Do you look forward to at least one night out every week, or do you prefer to enjoy yourself at home?
195. Does your work involve attending social functions? If so, are these occasions a burden or a pleasure? Do you expect your spouse to be present, or do you prefer that your spouse not be present?
196. Do you socialize primarily with people from work? Do you socialize with people from the same ethnic/racial/religious/ socioeconomic background? Do you socialize with a diverse mix of people?
197. Are you usually the life of the party? Do you dislike being singled out for attention?
198. Have you or a partner ever had an argument caused by one or the other's behavior at a social function?
199. Have differences about socializing ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
HOLIDAY AND BIRTHDAYS
200. Which holidays do you believe are the most important to celebrate?
201. Do you maintain a family tradition around certain holidays?
202. How important are birthday celebrations to you? Anniversaries?
203. Have differences about holidays/birthdays ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?
TRAVEL / VACATIONS
204. Do you enjoy traveling, or are you a homebody?
205. Are vacation getaways an important part of your yearly planning?
206. How much of your annual income do you designate for vacation and travel expenses?
207. Do you have favorite vacation destinations? Do you believe it's wasteful to spend money on vacations to distant places?
208. Do you think it's important to have a passport? To speak a foreign language?
209. Have disputes about travel and vacation ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
210. What is your level of formal education? Is your education a source of pride or shame?
211. Do you regularly sign up for courses that interest you, or enroll in advanced-learning programs that will help you in your career or profession?
212. Do you think that college graduates are smarter than people who didn't attend college? Have disparities in education ever been a source of tension for you in a relationship, or ended a relationship?
213. How do you feel about private school education for children? Do you have a limit on how much you would be willing to invest in private school education?
214. Have education levels or priorities ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
215. Do you own or lease a car? Would you ever consider not having a car?
216. Is the year, make, and model of the car you drive important to you? Is your car your castle?
217. Are fuel efficiency and environmental protection factors when you choose a car?
218. Given the availability of reliable public transportation, would you prefer not to drive a car at all?
219. How much time do you spend maintaining and caring for your vehicle? Are you reluctant to let others drive your car?
220. How long is your daily commute? Is it by bus, train, car, or carpool?
221. Do you consider yourself a good driver?
222. Have cars or driving ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
223. How much time do you spend on the phone?
224. Do you have a cell phone?
225. Do you spend significant time each day writing emails?
226. Do you have an unlisted telephone number?
227. Do you consider yourself communicative or a private person?
228. What are the circumstances under which you would not answer the telephone or cell phone?
229. Has modem communication ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
230. Do you like to eat most of your meals sitting at the table? Do you tend to eat on the run?
231. Do you love to cook? Do you love to eat?
232. When you were growing up, was it important that everybody be present for dinner?
233. Do you follow a specific diet regimen that limits your food choices? Do you expect others in your household to adhere to certain dietary restrictions?
234. In your family is food ever used as a bribe or a proof of love?
235. Has eating ever been a source of shame for you?
236. Have eating and food ever been a source of tension and stress in a relationship? Have they ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
237. Are there household responsibilities you believe to be the sole domain of a man or a woman? Why do you believe this?
238. Do you believe that marriages are stronger if a woman defers to her husband in most areas? Do you need to feel in control or taken care of?
239. How important is equality in a marriage? Define what you mean by "equality".
240. Do you believe that roles in your family should be filled by the person best equipped for the job, even if it is an unconventional arrangement?
241. How did your family view the roles of girls and boys, men and women?
242. Have different ideas about gender roles ever been a source of tension for you in a relationship, or the cause of a breakup?
RACE, ETHNICITY, AND DIFFERENCES
243. What did you learn about race and ethnic differences as a child?
244. Which of those beliefs from childhood do you still carry? Which have you shed?
245. Does your work environment look more like the United Nations? How about your personal life?
246. How would you feel if your child dated someone of a different race or ethnicity? The same gender? How would you feel if he or she married this person?
247. Are you aware of your own biases regarding race and ethnicity? What are they? Where did they come from?
248. Have race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a source of tension and stress for you in a relationship?
249. What were your family's views of race, ethnicity, and difference?
250. Is it important to you that your partner shares your vision of race, ethnicity, and difference?
251. Have different ideas about race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
252. Would you consider yourself a morning person or a night person?
253. Do you judge people who have a different waking and sleeping clock than you?
254 Are you a physically affectionate person?
255. What is your favorite season of the year?
256. When you disagree with your partner, do you tend to fight or withdraw?
257. What is your idea of a fair division of labor in your household?
258. Do you consider yourself an easy going person? Are you most comfortable with a firm plan of action?
259. How much sleep do you need every night?
260. Do you like to be freshly showered and wearing clean clothes every day, even on weekends or vacations?
261. What is your idea of perfect relaxation?
262. What makes you really angry? What do you do when you're really angry?
263. What makes you most joyful? What do you do when you are joyful?
264. What makes you most insecure? How do you handle your insecurities?
265. What makes you most secure?
266. Do you fight fair? How do you know?
267. How do you celebrate when something great happens? How do you mourn when something tragic happens?
268. What is your greatest limitation?
269. What is your greatest strength?
270. What stands in the way of your creating a passionate and caring marriage?
271. What do you need to do today to move toward making your dream marriage a reality?
272. What makes you the most afraid?
273. What drains you of your joy and passion?
274. What replenishes your mind, body, and spirit?
275. What makes your heart smile in tough times?
276. What makes you feel the most alive?
Feng Shui (fung shway) is the ancient chinese art of
placement. Feng Shui design is all about balancing and harmonizing your environment's chi (energy). Through the use of colors, design, and compass directions, you can truly transform your environments. A transformed environment translates to a transformed life. Here are five ways to transform your love life today.
Clutter creates energy blocks in your environment.
Get organized by ridding everything that's nolonger working in your life.
Divide your home into sections for daily or weekly cleaning.
Create bins labeled Trash, Donate, File, and Recycle.
Take your bins to their designated dumping grounds at the end of each day.
This will help you to stay organized and avoid overwhelm for the next day's tasks.
Take a look at everything from furniture clutter to paper clutter.
The feng shui energy starts grooving the minute you start moving!
2. Southwest Sector
The Southwest sector is known as your Love and Relationships
sector. This is the area that governs all of your relationships
(business, family, friends, romance).
Bring in pinks, yellows, beige, white, and a little red to the Southwest.
3. Pair Items
Love starts within before it manifests outward.
See yourself paired up by pairing everything else up. Enjoy two end tables
next to a cozy loveseat, artwork that displays a couple in love, and/or a lovely
dining table set for two. The pairings are truly endless.
4. Bedroom Decor
Your bedroom rules your health and relationships.
Pay attention to the design and decor of the environment.
Make sure that your bed has a side table on each side.
This will manifest equal partnerships.
Have a strong headboard and baseboard as well.
This will manifest stability and security in your relationships.
Bring in the essence of sensuality with silk sheets, faux sheepskin rugs, and cozy blankets. You want to create a relaxing and cozy environment for yourself.
Bedroom No Nos
Avoid blacks and blues. These colors are associated with the water element.
You don't want to water down your relationships.
Avoid a home office in the bedroom. Your bedroom is for rest and relaxation.
Avoid mirrors that reflect the bed. Mirrors bounce energy around. This disturbs your health and sleep. Mirrors can also create a "third party" energy in your relationship. Televisions should be covered up or taken out.
You want your bedroom to be a sanctuary where the only distraction is your partner.
5. Create Your Ideal Partner
Knowing what you want will save you a lot of time in relationships.
Create an ideal partner and/or relationship list to place in the Southwest sector.
List the Top 20 qualities that you love about yourself.
This will help you to understand the partner qualities that will compliment you best.
Enjoy a Personal Feng Shui Consultation for Love HERE.